Tuesday, September 1, 2009

My Sister's Keeper

CRay’s Corner…

I was talking with a friend last night and we got on the subject of females relationships with other females. As most of you may know (for my female readers), it is typically hard for women to have healthy (non-catty) relationships with each other. Is it really any one party’s fault? Why is it that women rarely complement each other? Why is it that women scarcely support each other (in various efforts)? After pondering each of these questions, I came up with one answer.

Negative Self-Confidence!

I know… it may have thrown each of you reading this post for a loop, but it is indeed true. It is in my experience and observation that positive confidence in self can create either a Helper or a Hater out of us. It is so true.

I woman that is truly comfortable with her individuality can both accept and respect that of another. She can accept this, because she accepts herself and is not unanchored by the opinion of the world. I will go even further to state that the God fearing woman understand that if her intent lines up with God’s Will… the sky is the limit! That is the recipe for confidence!

Let us not confuse positive self confidence with cockiness. The two are related, but can easily separate peaceful living from hardship.

Webster’s defines confidence as, a: a feeling or consciousness of one's powers or of reliance on one's circumstances or b: the quality or state of being certain. A person with certitude tend to be gracious thus becoming a Helper to those around them. They use their confidence in the knowledge of the given situation to positively aid another. Plainly put: You are at the club and notice a woman leaving the restroom with her skirt stuck in her dress. You then confidently approach her privately and let her know the issue. You then quietly go back to your friends, with out discussing the issue. Talk about sisters helping sisters!

Webster’s defines cockiness as, boldly or brashly self-confident. This type of self confidence is when you feel as though you are superior (better than) another, for whatever reason and tend to put people down while stepping on them to lift yourself up. This type of certitude enables a person to be a Hater to those around them. Simply stated, the in the “club” scenario, this type of person would have cause a scene publicly embarrassing the lady or laughed about it amongst friends.

We all have had our moments of cockiness, but I urge each woman reading this to truly embrace her individuality and directly after that, please understand that each woman has uniqueness. Just because you may not understand someone, does not immediately make them a bad person. Always take into account intent. If the intent is positive and there is no disrespect, please take time to relate, instead in instantly hating.

I promise loving one another on the spot will aid you in living the best life EVER!

Hug a Sister Today!
Have POSITIVELY PEACHY PEACE!

God’s Love,
CRay

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