CRay’s Corner…
I was talking with a friend last night and we got on the subject of females relationships with other females. As most of you may know (for my female readers), it is typically hard for women to have healthy (non-catty) relationships with each other. Is it really any one party’s fault? Why is it that women rarely complement each other? Why is it that women scarcely support each other (in various efforts)? After pondering each of these questions, I came up with one answer.
Negative Self-Confidence!
I know… it may have thrown each of you reading this post for a loop, but it is indeed true. It is in my experience and observation that positive confidence in self can create either a Helper or a Hater out of us. It is so true.
I woman that is truly comfortable with her individuality can both accept and respect that of another. She can accept this, because she accepts herself and is not unanchored by the opinion of the world. I will go even further to state that the God fearing woman understand that if her intent lines up with God’s Will… the sky is the limit! That is the recipe for confidence!
Let us not confuse positive self confidence with cockiness. The two are related, but can easily separate peaceful living from hardship.
Webster’s defines confidence as, a: a feeling or consciousness of one's powers or of reliance on one's circumstances or b: the quality or state of being certain. A person with certitude tend to be gracious thus becoming a Helper to those around them. They use their confidence in the knowledge of the given situation to positively aid another. Plainly put: You are at the club and notice a woman leaving the restroom with her skirt stuck in her dress. You then confidently approach her privately and let her know the issue. You then quietly go back to your friends, with out discussing the issue. Talk about sisters helping sisters!
Webster’s defines cockiness as, boldly or brashly self-confident. This type of self confidence is when you feel as though you are superior (better than) another, for whatever reason and tend to put people down while stepping on them to lift yourself up. This type of certitude enables a person to be a Hater to those around them. Simply stated, the in the “club” scenario, this type of person would have cause a scene publicly embarrassing the lady or laughed about it amongst friends.
We all have had our moments of cockiness, but I urge each woman reading this to truly embrace her individuality and directly after that, please understand that each woman has uniqueness. Just because you may not understand someone, does not immediately make them a bad person. Always take into account intent. If the intent is positive and there is no disrespect, please take time to relate, instead in instantly hating.
I promise loving one another on the spot will aid you in living the best life EVER!
Hug a Sister Today!
Have POSITIVELY PEACHY PEACE!
God’s Love,
CRay
Tuesday, September 1, 2009
I Love Me Some Me!
Guess Who’s Back?
Well dears… my hiatus is over! I took a break from blogging for a while to get back to the PEACE in ME! I thank God for steering my journey. He is amazing and receives ALL of the glory!
Back to the basics… as for me, I have faired pretty well in keeping my weight under control. I am still at the 139 pound mark with about 10% body fat. I must say, those workouts five days weekly are really aiding me in maintaining. I have set some goals for myself in the coming months. I really want to drop down to 130. I know that will mean that I will lose a tad bit of muscle (based on my BMI), but I really want to see those three numbers on the scale that I am standing on. ;o) I also want to start back taking yoga at least twice a week and continue to pursue a vegetarian lifestyle (yup… I am fasting from meat this month and it is easier than I thought).
For now those are my fitness goals to be completed by the end of 2009. I know that they are feasible; I just have to keep my hand in Gods!
As each of you all know, this blog is not solely about physical fitness. It is also about mental and emotional well-being. We must be fit in our minds as well as our bodies. We must begin to devote more time to “smelling the roses”. We must not only know our purpose in life, but know and understand our purpose for each day. We must make a daily commitment to making the best of each day regardless of the circumstance and ensure that all the thanks belong to God.
CRay’s Tip of the Day…
Love yourself right where you are in life today (no exceptions)! If you don’t think highly of yourself, you are of no good use to those around you. Embrace and love you… stop seeking acceptance from the world… God made you perfect for His standard for you (let that sink in)!
Take 10 minutes tonight before you go to sleep to go into the bathroom, close the door and look at yourself in the mirror (bring a watch in with you). Spend one minute on each thing that you like about yourself (spend five minutes on something physical and five minutes on personality traits). At the end of this exercise smile BIG and blow yourself a HUGE kiss!
God’s Love,
CRay
Well dears… my hiatus is over! I took a break from blogging for a while to get back to the PEACE in ME! I thank God for steering my journey. He is amazing and receives ALL of the glory!
Back to the basics… as for me, I have faired pretty well in keeping my weight under control. I am still at the 139 pound mark with about 10% body fat. I must say, those workouts five days weekly are really aiding me in maintaining. I have set some goals for myself in the coming months. I really want to drop down to 130. I know that will mean that I will lose a tad bit of muscle (based on my BMI), but I really want to see those three numbers on the scale that I am standing on. ;o) I also want to start back taking yoga at least twice a week and continue to pursue a vegetarian lifestyle (yup… I am fasting from meat this month and it is easier than I thought).
For now those are my fitness goals to be completed by the end of 2009. I know that they are feasible; I just have to keep my hand in Gods!
As each of you all know, this blog is not solely about physical fitness. It is also about mental and emotional well-being. We must be fit in our minds as well as our bodies. We must begin to devote more time to “smelling the roses”. We must not only know our purpose in life, but know and understand our purpose for each day. We must make a daily commitment to making the best of each day regardless of the circumstance and ensure that all the thanks belong to God.
CRay’s Tip of the Day…
Love yourself right where you are in life today (no exceptions)! If you don’t think highly of yourself, you are of no good use to those around you. Embrace and love you… stop seeking acceptance from the world… God made you perfect for His standard for you (let that sink in)!
Take 10 minutes tonight before you go to sleep to go into the bathroom, close the door and look at yourself in the mirror (bring a watch in with you). Spend one minute on each thing that you like about yourself (spend five minutes on something physical and five minutes on personality traits). At the end of this exercise smile BIG and blow yourself a HUGE kiss!
God’s Love,
CRay
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